Okay, so I admit, I am your needy, high maintenance friend. I am in need of your help yet again. At this time of year when everybody is focusing on their New Year's Resolutions, I am on a journey. I am hoping it won't take me far since I am on a journey to find myself. I know who I am as a wife and a mother. I really do enjoy these duties, but cooking and cleaning is only fun for so long. I know this post will probably sound selfish but I am trying to find things I enjoy for me to make me a better wife and mother. I don't like to list New Year's Resolutions per se, I would rather call mine goals. I seem to forget resolutions but goals are easier for me to reach and not drop after a month or so.
I really want to find things that I enjoy and make me happy, besides being a wife and mother. I know that I love to shop but that gets me into financial trouble. I know that I love to eat but that also gets me into trouble (never being able to lose weight). I love exercising and am trying to find/make time in the day so I can do it each and every day. I feel much better when I get my work out in. I have set a goal to run a 1/2 marathon by my 35th birthday and since the one I want to run is in August, I am starting to train for it now. I enjoy reading but by the time I get time to read my brain is so fried I can barely see what I'm reading. I want to find other things that make me happy so I don't just vegge on the couch in front of the tv every night once I get the kids to bed.
My question for you is what do you enjoy doing for yourself?? When you are all alone, what is the thing you do for you?? If you could do anything in the world, what would it be? Thanks in advance for your help! I couldn't do what I do without the love and support of my wonderful friends and family!
5 comments:
aren't all of us moms trying to figure out "who we are" behind the husband, the kids, the pets, the laundry, the groceries, the cooking, etc?? I know i am! I usually find myself behind the TV in the evenings too...let's face it, we need to vegg! But, I do find that when (and i know this will sound cliche) I put the things of the Lord first...scripture study, prayer, reading the Ensign, working on my calling(s), service, etc, etc...I ALWAYS feel better! Just being in touch with who I am divinely helps a TON! Then, everything else just seems to fall in place and feel right again! And the day will come, sooner than we'll want, when the kids are gone and we find ourselves with more free time then maybe, just maybe, we'll find ourselves again, or...realize who we've become! Enjoy the journey! Candace you're GREAT!
I totally know what you mean! I love being a mom but I almost feel like I am supposed to be accomplishing some super-talents or skills at the same time. But I am starting to see tv-watching at night as my super-skill! Just ask me what's on, and I can tell you! (-:
Anyway, I need to work on my religious mastery- Kel sounds right on her thoughts there. And maybe we can start a neighborhood club where we learn cool stuff...what do you think? Maybe we can learn languages or just do some aerobics!
You know that is a really hard question!!! When I get a chance to even think about myself I will get back to you! LOL! I think that I will find out what I really like to do when all my kids are grown up and I will actually have some time to try new things and figure myself out, but by then I will probably be wishing that they were all little back in my home and we were running around doing what they love to do. I'll tell you what though...I really enjoy a good nap! Good luck Candace. It always helps to talk and laugh with other mothers who are in this together!
Hey Candace! I know we live right next door but it seems like I haven't seen you for awhile! I'm not sure I have very helpful ideas, but I wanted you to know I understand how you are feeling! It seems to be harder too in these cold winter months when it is hard to go outside, and having a new baby always requires an adjustment on your time and activities. I know my sister and one of John's sister's have gotten into jewelry making - I'm not the biggest jewelry person but they make some really neat stuff! And they like to do it with friends sometimes to make it more fun too. But when we were in AZ I was asking my sister how she even knows which beads to choose at the store so I'm not much help! Good luck and we are always here if you need us!
You know what I've always wanted to go do?? ...but I've never done it because I've wanted a friend to go do it with me?? That fun pole dancing, exercising, class! Now wouldn't THAT be fun?!? Just think... it would be a chance to get out into a GIRLS only environment, we would be exercising without even feeling like it, and we would feel sexy and girlish... instead of the typical, daily workhorse who is always wearing spit-up and spaghetti sauce all over our shirts! :) The only problem is I don't know of one around here! I know of one in Draper, but can't seem to find one closer by... and I would LOVE to do it once a week - to just get out and have FUN - and obviously get GOOD at it! If you're ever up for it and could convince Jim to do his "daddy duties" for a while each week, let me know! I think it would be good for our souls! :)
Post a Comment